John Joseph Bibbler

March 3, 1987 ~ August 19, 2022

John “J” Joseph Bibbler, beloved son, cherished brother, adored grandson, spirited uncle and godson, and loyal friend and cousin died on Friday, August 19, 2022, in Grand Rapids, Michigan, surrounded by his loving family. A proud graduate of Western Michigan University, he double majored in environmental studies and natural resource management. J loved nature and cared deeply about the conservation of the planet. He went on to work in the culinary arts and was an accomplished chef. He was a bright light and his life reflected grace and beauty in the face of chronic health challenges. J exemplified a creative spirit and a beautiful heart and soul. He lived with his best friend, Ru (named after his favorite poet philosopher, Rumi) in the Grand Castle apartment community in Grandville, Michigan. J and Ru enjoyed time together in the complex’s dog park, walking on the trails adorned with wildflowers and benches to sit and read or write poetry, review NFL, NBA, and other sports updates, or meditate about love and life. J regularly led and contributed to online groups that celebrated music and socialization, played guitar, and wrote songs and poems that promoted a more compassionate world. J is survived by his mother and father, Lisa and John Bibbler; sister, Jenny (Bibbler) and Jonny Abendano; niece, Luna; nephew, Lucas; brother, James Bibbler, grandmother, Jane Bibbler; aunts, Kathy Reno, Lynn Pellerito (godmother), Barbara Pellerito, and Julie Pellerito; uncles, Paul Pellerito, Joseph Pellerito Jr. (godfather), and Chris Pellerito; many cousins and friends; and his faithful dog, Ru. He was preceded in his transition by his grandfathers, Dick Bibbler, and Joe Pellerito Sr.; grandmother, Janet Pellerito; and uncles, Dan Reno, and Andy Prakken. A memorial service to celebrate John Joseph Bibbler’s life will be held on Friday, August 26, 2022, at 11:00 a.m. at Matthysse Kuiper DeGraaf Funeral Home (Grandville) 4145 Chicago Dr. SW. Relatives and friends may meet the family Thursday, August 25, from 2-4 and 6-8 p.m. and Friday from 10-11 a.m. prior to the service at the funeral home. Those who wish may make memorial contributions to The Humane Society of West Michigan.

Memorial Visitation
Thursday, August 25
2:00pm - 4:00pm

MKD - Grandville
4145 Chicago Dr. SW
Grandville, MI 49418

Phone: (616) 534-8656

Memorial Visitation
Thursday, August 25
6:00pm - 8:00pm

MKD - Grandville
4145 Chicago Dr. SW
Grandville, MI 49418

Phone: (616) 534-8656

Memorial Visitation
Friday, August 26
10:00am - 11:00am

MKD - Grandville
4145 Chicago Dr. SW
Grandville, MI 49418

Phone: (616) 534-8656

Celebration of Life Service
Friday, August 26
11:00am

MKD - Grandville
4145 Chicago Dr. SW
Grandville, MI 49418

Phone: (616) 534-8656

Leave Your Tribute Message

August 28, 2022 4:40pm
Hey John (Fish), I really can’t believe you are gone… I am not ready for you to be gone. I miss you dearly there’s hasn’t been a day I wait for your call, text or even your live streams. I only knew you for 6 months but we always said we knew each other for a life-time… you are my best friend and my person. I know your not suffering anymore and watching over us. Just know we all loved you. For his family and friends I am so sorry for your loss, John was a amazing, funny and caring person. Much love Hippie girl

- Robyn (hippie_girl)

August 26, 2022 3:03pm
FISH! You are my best friend- I love you so much! You gave me hope love and respect. You gave me more then I know. I wish I could have more time with you! My spirit is broken. I wish I could have been there. I'm so sorry! With all my heart- you are loved. I don't even know how to cope... my grief is strong and I can't find words but I had to say something.To a great man, one of the best ill ever know, I will miss you! -Your Bestie JJ ( Jason )

- Jj

August 26, 2022 12:35pm
I will always remember John for those big blue eyes and driving Melanie, Cory and I around in his little silver eclipse. So many good memories from our early teen years; he has been taken too soon. I’m so sorry for your loss, sending so much love to his family and friends.

- Lauren Kistner

August 25, 2022 9:03pm
He was a amazing human being. He brought so many of us together in our online community. He stayed on the phone with me when I was suffering after losing my oldest to complications from covid and we cried together about the physical pain we felt from loss of love in this world. We laughed that kind of deep belly laugh about our silly dogs and stupid jokes. We video chatted for hours talking about food and music, oh lots of music, and love and dogs and family and our life experiences. He talked about you and his mom and how much you all did for him and Ru, I called her Ruuusaaafeee. I hope she is being hugged and loved on. I used to send him Thai food and we’d sit on chat states apart and enjoy the simple things like a meal and a movie from states apart. Your son was the kindest heart I’ve ever met! I wanted to be there today but it is my daughters birthday and 17 is kind of a big deal!! My heart is with you all! I pray your family finds some peace in each day. This world was a brighter place with your son a part of it. Your son touched my heart and changed my life for the better! I wish I could thank him again for just being my friend. My condolences 💐 I’m so sorry for this loss and the pain you all much be going through. Love Future. Till we meet again beyond the stars!

- Barbara (future)

August 25, 2022 3:21pm
jj iwill always have you in my heart&prayers;,you are a very special person in my heart, love you forever

- j j bibbler

August 23, 2022 7:57pm
I wish you peace and comfort at this sad and difficult time. Remember the good times.

- Meradell Eberlein

August 22, 2022 6:34pm
My sincere sympathies to the family in your time of loss. Losing a son must seem unbearable. May God comfort you, and bring peace.

- Georgia Sager

August 22, 2022 12:43pm
Although we only met J a few times, we have been friends with John since college and Lisa since first grade. We were in each other's weddings and are each others kids god parents. We know what a wonderful family you have and how hard it must be to say goodbye to your son. We feel sure J is with his grandparents in heaven and smiling down on all of you. R.I.P. J.

- Cindy and Mike Connors

August 21, 2022 10:09pm
Fish, I was just talking to you a few days ago and now you’re gone. I can’t believe this. You will be missed by many. Through all the years I’ve known you, you always knew how to make people laugh. The way you wore two sunglasses at once, your intense staring battles, and how you’d make your owl figurine dance to your music. I always found comfort in your streams. You’ve been there for so many people. I will miss you a bunch. My condolences to his family. May he Rest In Peace.

- Mercury

August 21, 2022 5:12am
Oh Fish where do I start? We first met over a year ago when you were battling one of my friends and I thought you looked cute in that head band that everybody else found disgusting. We hit it off right away and would spend hours on the phone to each other. I’ll miss our chats and how you would make me laugh doing impressions from the mighty boosh and John Lennon and me teaching you English insults and cuisine, remember our beans on toast date? Oh and you teaching me American history! Life is so cruel and it took away our opportunity to meet, which was always going to be a challenge let’s face it we live on different continents and we never got to listen to yesterday together. Even so you was one of my favourite people and we spoke every single day. There’s a big hole to fill my little snog fish, which you loved to tell everyone you were called snog because of me. I’ll try to love myself more, I’ll always carry with me when you said to me it makes you sad that I don’t love myself and that you love me so I’ll try do that one thing for you buddy. I hope you’re at peace now but just know mister that a piece of me has died with you. Here comes the sun, and I say it’s alright. Love you my little fishy, the world will be a much duller place without you. Love always Leanne X

- Leanne

August 21, 2022 1:25am
I will miss you Fish. You were one of my favorite online friends. You are a beautiful soul. Just know you are deeply missed by many of your online friends. We all find comfort in online connections and just know you were my comfort. I am praying for your family and close friends comfort in this difficult time.

- Annie Rose

August 20, 2022 10:43pm
We are heartbroken about you losing your beautiful son. We send our deepest condolences to you John, Lisa and your entire family. There is no greater pain than the death of a child. May JJ Rest In Peace. Love, Bob & Kathleen Kieling 💔

- Kathleen Kieling

August 20, 2022 1:09pm
My condolences to the family of John, I knew him off a social live app, never got to meet in person, you’ll be missed, Rest In Peace “snog fish” as he went by this name on the app, from your Canadian friend.

- Alexis

August 20, 2022 1:05pm
I never met you in person, but I would have love to. I am beyond sad and disheartened to hear your gone. Gone from our sight, but never from our hearts.

- Jessica Wright




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